When I was in the tennis club, we had disputes almost every 2 weeks. It was always about how one of the members had different priorities against the tennis club or sometimes about having trust issues with another. Instead of going behind the member's back, we would always hold a meeting and tell that person what the problem was directly. This was definitely not a Japanese way to deal with a conflict but it was faster to get everything settled to where they were and also, even after the dispute, the trust would remain because we knew everything the others were thinking. The problem with the way Japanese people deal with conflict I think is that they always do it secretively. I mean they never confront the issue, they just make a tense environment and hope the person will get the message. I can recall the time my friends started ignoring this other friend. I mean, whenever she would go up to them and give a friendly hi, they would ignore her and continue on talking...this may sound so junior high but this actually happens in corporations as well. It's childish but to some people that's the only way they can deal with the issue. however, this is obviously not confronting the issue. it's escaping it, ignoring it. What I've learned from my eighteen years of life, is that that is never ever a clever way to deal with conflict. It just makes everything worse and also messes up the trust tie in the group for quite a long time.
Shackleton was clever enough to realize that all of his team members were needed and with the loss of one member's support, he would lose the whole trust in the group. It's like one of those situations where if you lose one of the pieces, the whole would go down with it.
Every member has a strength and a weakness. What kind of leader would you be if you couldnt accept a man for both qualities?
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